Happy birthday Marko :D
Happy birthday beautiful!!!
Happy birthday Marko :D
Happy birthday beautiful!!!
What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex Negative
- that sex positive feminism has little room for survivors of assault
- that sex positive feminism has little interest in helping people who don’t want their sex-life to be a coping mechanism from trauma
- that sex positive feminism prioritizes individual pleasure over critical thinking skills
- that sex positive feminism should be critiqued!
- that not all “kinks” are okay
- that people are allowed to not be interested in hearing about your sex life
- that people are allowed to not enjoy sex
- that people are allowed to be scared of sex
- that no one needs to have or enjoy sex to prove how empowered they are
What I Don’t Mean
- I’m going to yell at individual adults who have consensual sex.
- I’m anti-sex
- I’m anti-kink
- I’m against coping mechanisms and survival
To add a few of my own as a sex negative sex worker:
- that sex positive feminism tends to glorify sex work and in doing so silences sex workers when we speak out about the problems with sex work that sex posi feminists don’t talk about
- sex posi feminism perpetuates seemingly good stereotypes about sex work but ends up harming sex workers
- sex posi feminism prioritizes aspects of sex work that are supposed to be the “better” parts of it without understanding outside oppressive forces (see: having orgasms at work is great!)
- sex posi feminism tends to ignore outside oppressive forces in general like racism, transphobia, classism, etc.
Hmm-as someone who identifies as a sex positive feminist and organizes with other sex positive feminists, this has not been my experience.
I am involved with a group called I Know Someone, which is about educating people about the spectrum of sexual violence and what consent means (anything less than an enthusiastic yes is not consent). All of these women identify as sex positive feminists. While we try to end the shaming of women’s consensual sexual choices, we also emphasize that there are many women who choose not to have sex, and that this is also a perfectly valid choice. We celebrate all forms of sexuality.
Systemic oppression is always the focal point of any work that I have done with other sex positive feminists, highlighting the intersection of race, gender, class, sexual orientation, age, ability, ect.
I’m also a coordinator at a drop in center for sex workers. Our center is sex positive, and views sex work as real work, but we always ensure to meet the women where they are at and never make assumptions about them. While we view sex work as real work, we know that not all women’s view of the work and their experience is the same. Some find it empowering, others don’t. For some it is a valid choice, for others it is a means of survival. The women that come in are street workers, so mainly the work is for survival. We still avoid labeling them as victims, because we find this more disempowering. I agree however that some people who are sex positive sex workers or supporters forget that there are sex workers who only do this because they see no other option, and if our system were different they would have more choices. This goes beyond just sex work and to other forms of work that are alienating and exploitative. What we try to do is avoid assuming that the sex workers who come in are looking to be saved. Even the ones who do it as survival see their work as being valid just like any other form of work.
It’s unfortunate that this woman’s experience with sex positive feminists has not been a good one. This is not the way all sex positive feminists are, as I can say as one writing and from the women that I know. I agree however that criticism is always very important because no person or movement is perfect, far from so, and we always need to be reflecting on our views and actions because often we don’t realize that our good intentions are coming off as oppressive. I am certainly far from being perfect and do not have everything figured out, so I appreciate and value listening to other perspectives and having this kind of discourse.
Venue was cool. Let us wait inside, warm, and made the whole process of getting in very easy. There was no pit, so we were against the stage which was cool.
Lights were ASS. I’m not even fucking kidding, I still have…
Awww I loved reading about your experience! that’s so awesome you got to chat with Elias and Tony, they are both so wonderful.
And I agree I love that Make is playing the intro and outro of Cinderblox. He gets to shine. <3
I love reading people’s concert reviews. It gives me warm fuzzies and makes me fangirl too.
There are less than nine days left of January. You know what that means! Racists are about to come out of the woodwork! It’s almost Black History Month. The time of year when ever black person (or any person of color for that matter) get’s asked “Why isn’t there a white…
I am writing a very simple two page reflection for my International Social Work class, but here I am at 3 in the morning trying to finish. :O And I have class at 9:45. Horrible horrible ADHD making concentration so difficult. AAAAAAAARGGGH.
One double spaced page left to go.
- white people are not the bad guys
- Christian people are not the bad guys
- Republicans are not the bad guys
- straight people are not the bad guys
- cisgender people are not the bad guys
- rich people are not the bad guys
- men are not the bad guys
- racist, bigoted, homophobic, ignorant, selfish, and / or rude people are the bad guys
dear social justice bloggers
To whomever created this post..understand what privilege means….it’s not about being ‘bad guys’ it’s about understanding why the social group you belong to grants you unearned privileges and results in inequality and oppression. It’s not about pointing fingers, but about being informed.
And I would say that the rich and Republicans are part of the ‘bad guys’. :P Mainly because as Republicans you are promoting a system that benefits a minority of people, and as the rich you are in a social class that depends on the exploitation of others.
Make looks just odd without hair.
He does and it will take a while to get used to it!
On the other hand, he sure has a rather exquisite cranium. LOL
While I prefer him with hair, he still pulls it off well! He’s gorgeous no matter what.